We’ve all heard that the “honeymoon phase” in our relationships are only temporary.
This phase can be described as an exciting time in the beginning of relationships where you’re still learning about one another and everything seems to be going perfectly.
They say the honeymoon phase lasts six months to a year, but the real question is, why does it have to end? Why can’t you continue doing little things for one another that help to keep that spark alive?
You may look back to the beginning of your relationship and remember a time when you couldn’t keep your hands off of each other.
In these early stages you may have gone on fancier dates and woken up to mushier texts.
These days, your date night may consist of chinese take out and the texts you wake up to might say, “don’t forget to take out the garbage,” but does that mean that the romance is dead?
The simple answer is no.
But if you want to keep that “first time feeling,” alive, you will need to put in the effort. It’s not uncommon for the blissful romance to die out once the honeymoon phase is “over.”
But believe it or not, relationships can actually get better as they progress because you’ll become comfortable with one another and understand each other better.
If you find that you’ve gotten past this “honeymoon phase” and things are very different, it’s a good idea to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship overall.
Although things will change the longer you’re in a relationship, there are a few important things that shouldn’t go away.
Listening to each other
One of the most important things you can do in any relationship is be a good listener. There are times when your significant other may be seeking advice, but there will also be occasions where they just need to be listened to.
It’s crucial to be a good listener and in turn, they should reciprocate. Listening to each other also means being aware of one other’s body language and shifts in demeanor.
Being conscious of this will allow you both to communicate better and form a deeper level of trust.
Trying new things
Just because you’ve experienced many “firsts” together doesn’t mean that there’s no room to try new things. Being adventurous and keeping things interesting will help to avoid getting stuck in the same old routine.
Try new restaurants, go to gatherings with friends, and go on spontaneous trips.
Making the same effort you put in during the beginning of the relationship should be maintained throughout the relationship.
Being a support system
Being a good support system for your significant other means more than just being there for them when things are bad.
It’s also encouraging them to follow their dreams and pursue their goals. In order for a relationship to be successful, mutual support is necessary to help one other to reach your potential– and we all need a little push now and again.
Miss each other
In the beginning of the relationship, you may have found yourself missing the other person even immediately after leaving them. This may fade over time because you both get used to each other and spend a lot of time together.
However, it may be a good idea to set out some “you time.” Whether it’s an annual trip with your pals or a fitness class you attend on your own– creating an opportunity to miss one another may leave you looking more forward to spending time together. As they say, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
Share good news
If you find that day-in and day-out you come home and complain to your partner, it’s time to take a step back and reflect.
Although your partner should be supportive through the good, the bad and the ugly, they aren’t going to be your therapist 24/7.
Enough negativity coming from you can actually rub negativity off on them, causing them to distance themselves from you.
Be sure to share the good news with your significant other, and in turn they will feel more inclined to share their good fortunes with you.
In the beginning of the relationship the intimacy you shared may have been at an all time high. Now, your schedules may be conflicting or you may have established a certain routine that doesn’t always allow time for passion.
If you feel that you are the partner with the lower libido, it’s important to communicate with your partner as to why you’re feeling this way.
A low libido can stem from many different factors and doesn’t necessarily mean that you are no longer attracted to your partner.
It’s important to be patient with one another and have a conversation about intimacy if you feel it’s lacking in your relationship.