The online world has made it easier to connect than ever before, and this goes for people looking for love, too. Not only is online dating the most common way for modern couples to get together, but long term relationships are becoming more and more common. However, a lot of people are wary of them and for good reason: they often don’t work out. But why is that and what can be done about it?
People don’t maintain enough contact
When you don’t have someone physically nearby to check in with, then making sure that you get enough time to talk, and that you just check in at least once a day is essential. The relationship is mostly going to be sustained by attentive and thoughtful communication. If you can’t fit that into your average daily schedule or you’re not someone who communicates well by calls and IMs, then the relationship can break down quickly indeed.
There are no real-life meetings
A relationship can be built online just fine, but it will always be missing the all-important spark until two people actually meet face-to-face. For some people facing state or even country borders, these opportunities can be few and far between but it’s important to take them. When you meet them face-to-face for the first time, it becomes a lot clearer whether or not the both of you have a future.
You don’t have anything to do long-distance
Finding hobbies to share, even online, is very important for a relationship. It’s not uncommon that there comes a point where simply chatting isn’t fulfilling you as much as you need and you need some shared experiences with your long distance partner. There are websites that can make it a lot easier to watch stuff together online, just as there are online games that both of you might be into. Try to figure out what you can do together.
You don’t have any long-term plan
This is where people can start getting nervous. How committed are you to this relationship? Again, this step becomes most important after you’ve had a few face to face meetings. If you’re committed, however, you should be thinking about who might be making the move, and learn more today about how to make it happen logistically. Budget and other responsibilities might not allow this to happen immediately, but you need to know whether you have a long-term plan, even in the hypothetical.
Your intimate needs aren’t being fulfilled
This highly personal issue can be difficult to deal with at first, but it’s not something that should be ignored. Some people don’t need sexual activity as much in their life, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore your partner’s needs if that’s the case. Address the issue of sex in a long distance relationship and how you’re going to deal with it.
To put it simply, to ensure that a long distance relationship works, it has to be sustained, both by frequent contact and real life meetings, and it needs a serious commitment to a long-term plan.