The best first date expectation to have is simply that you’ll get to know someone new — you can worry about the rest later.
First dates are – well, they’re like a box of chocolates, You never know what you’re going to get.
They are also incredibly nerve-racking and often a source of some proper stress; beforehand. After all, we all want to make a good impression.
Let’s explore what you can do pre- and mid-first date to do just that.
Dress like you normally would
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good on a first date. However, if you pull out all the stops and wear your absolute best on the first date, where will you go from there?
The thing with first dates is coming across as yourself – a really good version of yourself, but not the absolute best one. After all, you won’t be that best version of yourself every day, so you want to keep it real.
While we’re on the subject of appearance, make sure your face is fresh and at its best. You can rejuvenate your skin quickly with a serum if you haven’t had the best skin week, and keep makeup minimal and realistic. That will be more important than what you wear.
Arrive on time
This is crucial. If you’re going to be late, let your date know in time and apologize. You can also offer to pick up the tab since they were forced to wait for you.
Being late is simply rude. It’s not fashionable, and it certainly won’t inspire an amazing first impression, no matter how good you look.
Relax and keep it light
First dates are about getting to know each other. You don’t need to dive incredibly deep with the topics you discuss. If you decide you like each other, there will be plenty of time to touch on some more serious and challenging subjects.
Also, make sure you don’t bring anything negative into the date. Even if you’ve had a bad day, this is not the time to share that fact. Don’t think of it as lying – it’s just not very important to get into a discussion about how you’ve just had a grueling meeting with a client and are very stressed out.
If you need to, come up with questions you want to ask if the conversations stalls, but try to just go with the flow and see where it takes you.
Be honest about how it went
Probably the most stressful part about a first date is the part where you say goodbye. Do you shake hands, do you hug, is there a goodbye kiss?
There is certainly no rule about it, and there are all sorts of different camps believing you should kiss/not kiss, set up the next date/wait for him to call you, and so on.
Either way, why not take the initiative yourself? It doesn’t have to be all about his decision. What if you don’t want to go on a second date?
Saying something like “I really enjoyed myself,” “the dinner was great,” “thanks for the coffee” is a really nice way to wind things down. Or you can just let him make his move.
On the other hand, if you’re not interested in a second rendition, you can always just shake hands, say thank you, and leave without any hint at another meeting. If he calls you up, you can just say no – but always be polite!
Don’t try to be likable
Finally, even though you are trying to make a good impression, don’t go overboard. Don’t just try to be likable. Be yourself.
If you enter into a relationship pretending you’re someone else just to be better liked, it will crumble very fast – and by that point, there will be emotions involved. If the two of you are not a match, it’s best to find out sooner than later.
Put your best foot forward and be open to their point of view, but don’t agree if you disagree and don’t pander to their tastes.
Final words of wisdom
The worst thing that can happen on a first date is not getting a second date. Which is nothing horrible, to begin with.
On the other hand, a first date can be the gateway to many more dates and some incredible happiness down the line. So walk into it bravely and ready for an adventure.