SOULMATES, THE ONE, YOUR LOBSTER ARE THEY REAL? DO WE BELIEVE IN SOULMATES AND IS THERE ONE PERFECT PERSON OUT THERE FOR YOU?
I don’t know, maybe? Truthfully I don’t know the answer to that question. We did an Instagram Poll on this very topic and 65% said yes they did believe in soulmates. So believe what you will.
I will raise my hands and admit I’m a romantic through and through. From sappy love quotes that used to fill my teenage notebooks to crying every-time Harry tells Sally he wants to spend the rest of his life with her. I love any movie with a wedding and a happy ending. I listen to musicians sing about love & finding the one and always head to the romance isle in the bookstore. Ever since I was a little girl I’ve dreamed of finding ‘the one’ and getting married- yes I was the kid who dressed up as a bride and played house. I love a love story and tear up when I see old couples walking down the street.
SO WHILE I AM A ROMANTIC THE CYNICAL GROWN UP PART OF MY BRAIN DOESN’T QUITE BELIEVE IN SOULMATES AND DOESN’T BELIEVE THERE IS JUST ONE PERFECT PERSON FOR YOU OUT THERE.
Part of me wants to believe that we will all find our missing piece, our other half. But the more rational part of my brain believes that we can have more than one soulmate in our lives. That there is more than one person out there for us. I believe you have people for certain times in your life that equates to soulmates.
So I believe you meet people at certain times in your life that’s right for the person you are at that time. For example who you are at 16 is a lot different to the person you are at say 25 or 30. Meaning the person you will be in a relationship at 16 is different from the person you’ll be with at 25. As you get older the qualities and values you want in a partner will change and the person you’re with will be different too. I mean that is just one end of the spectrum as we could argue that some people meet at 16 and stay together for the rest of their lives. That’s just not the case for me.
SO WHAT REALLY IS A SOULMATE?
Before we go further and I share my views on whether or not I believe in soulmates let’s look at where the idea of soulmates originated from.
The ideas of a Soulmate originate from Egyptian- Greek mythology which is said that human beings originated in pairs as in two sets of eyes, two sets of legs etc. As one body and one soul. It’s said that the gods split humans in half to decrease their power leaving them to search the earth for their other half. Their true soulmate.
I think now we all modernise Soulmates as the person we’re meant to be with. The person who shares similar qualities and beliefs, builds us up and makes us stronger making us a better person. To others a soulmate is the person who loves you & you love unconditionally. Someone who is you fate or destiny (and no I didn’t pluck that straight from a Disney film.) To many, a soulmate is familiar they are the person who has the same interests and tastes who is ultimately the same as you.
I do think we can find these qualities in the person who we love and are in a relationship with because why would we want any different. Why wouldn’t we want to be with someone who has similar tastes or shares the same qualities and beliefs as you do?
IT DOESN’T NECESSARILY MEAN THEY ARE OUR SOULMATES IT JUST MEANS YOU FIT WITH THAT PERSON.
As romantic as I am, I don’t believe in soulmates, at least I don’t think I do. However I do believe there are people who can teach you so much about yourself. There are people who will mean so much to you but will only be in your life for a short while and there are people who will come into your life and change you for the better. Whether they stay with you or don’t, they will flip your world upside down. Even when they’re gone they’ll take a small part of you with them.
I also believe in finding the One, in finding the one person suited to you.
Now that doesn’t mean they’re your soulmate they could be the polar opposite to you but what you have between you still works and is real. To me the most important thing in a relationship is the connection and intimacy you have between you and your partner, the ability to work together, to communicate, to laugh and enjoy each other.
As long as you have that it doesn’t matter if soulmates are real or if you even do believe in Soulmates.
Do you believe in Soulmates?